Eat not the Heart Volume 1, Issue 1 New Beginnings v You define your life. v Reminding yourself daily of what is important to
you will help prevent you from becoming overwhelmed. v
You have a right to expect what is important to you to be respected
by the people in your life. write down what you want your life to be like. Once you have this list, make copies and put it
everywhere so that you can see it throughout the day. You probably know
all the things on this list and didn't have to think much to find ten
things to write down. Keep the list handy and check it often. It is easy to
forget what is important to us when life becomes busy. This list will help
you in making decisions throughout the year. Inside: The Next Three Years
– 2 Keeping it Real
– 2 Taking Small Steps
– 3 Each Thing – 2 Once a Week – 3 Your Best Friend
– 4
New Year, New Hope
Once you have answered these questions for each item
on the list, do the following. Write down the names of three people that you deeply
admire in life. Then ask yourself, if they told you these were their
goals, what would you think? Is it healthy? Realistic? If it is realistic
for them, why? Would you admire them more or less? Once you have your answers, go back and make any
changes to your lists that are needed. Understand the benefits and drawbacks of the things
in your life and you will make better decisions.
Each Thing
Here are the only three questions you need to answer
in your journal each week. v
What did I do in the past week that moved me
toward my goals? v
What did I not do? v
What behavior do I need to be mindful of in the
coming week that prevents me from moving forward? Keep a journal.
It's easier then you think because this time, instead of a free flowing
entry – each week you will be answering three questions. Once a week, when you sit to do your bills or
schedule, or after you have done something like laundry or grocery
shopping, sit down and do your journal. By asking ourselves questions about our goals, by
imagining our goals as goals someone who we admire would want – we
can begin to see whether or not we are being realistic and healthy in our
pursuits. As important as it is to know when we do things that
prevent us from achieving our goals, it is even more important to
understand and support the ways in which we have been steadily working towards
them. New habits won't survive the old. Yet many of your
old habits are the keys to change and growth. You just have to learn how
to make them work for you. Let's take a year and instead of trying to bring new
things in, let's do the work to get what you have working the way it
should. Take the New Year to help what you already have grow.
Once a Week
New Year, New Hope (cont'd)
Your Best Friend Eat not the heart The best friend you have in trying to change and
achieve your goals is yourself. Only you can decide what is right for you. Only you
can decide the amount of effort that you are willing to put into achieving
your goals. Friends and family, co-workers are not there to
support you in your venture as they are there to share with you your
experience. We can overburden our relationships by casting the people in
our lives into the roles of "coach" and "therapist". We lose the quality in
our relationships that comes from the sharing of experience and create an
imbalance in which one person is cast as the parent or teacher and the
other as the child. E-Mail: info@eatnottheheart.com Learn how to live without losing your life.
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